Comments on: Frumster Files #60879 http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/2008/09/28/frumster-files-60879/ Just a mommy, with a soupcon of attitude and a dash of moxy. Fri, 08 Jan 2010 09:22:25 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: hila http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/2008/09/28/frumster-files-60879/#comment-447 hila Sun, 28 Sep 2008 15:02:26 +0000 http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/?p=244#comment-447 Oh- do men ask for a second date??? not familiar with that notion?! Oh- do men ask for a second date??? not familiar with that notion?!

]]> By: abandoning eden http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/2008/09/28/frumster-files-60879/#comment-446 abandoning eden Sun, 28 Sep 2008 14:06:26 +0000 http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/?p=244#comment-446 oh and I do have a frumster story...so I signed up for frumster after me and my ex fiance broke up, when I was still semi-religious. But then like 2 days after I signed up I got contacted by this guy who used to be my manager at *restaurant I worked at in monsey in high school*. This dude totally sexually harassed me when I worked there- he kept asking me to go have sex with him in the bathroom, and would try to feel me up when I was passing him by. I eventually quit the job because of him. Meanwhile, while he was sexually harassing me, he had a girlfriend. Fast forward 4 years, I sign up for frumster, and he contacted me after like 2 days and asked if I remembered him and if I wanted to go out sometime. Turns out he had married that girl he had been dating, but in the 3 years had gotten divorced. I said hells no to him, and canceled my frumster membership. (that was before the days when you had to pay for it). Maybe that's not the kind of story you are looking for? :) oh and I do have a frumster story…so I signed up for frumster after me and my ex fiance broke up, when I was still semi-religious. But then like 2 days after I signed up I got contacted by this guy who used to be my manager at *restaurant I worked at in monsey in high school*. This dude totally sexually harassed me when I worked there- he kept asking me to go have sex with him in the bathroom, and would try to feel me up when I was passing him by. I eventually quit the job because of him. Meanwhile, while he was sexually harassing me, he had a girlfriend.

Fast forward 4 years, I sign up for frumster, and he contacted me after like 2 days and asked if I remembered him and if I wanted to go out sometime. Turns out he had married that girl he had been dating, but in the 3 years had gotten divorced. I said hells no to him, and canceled my frumster membership. (that was before the days when you had to pay for it).

Maybe that’s not the kind of story you are looking for? :)

]]> By: abandoning eden http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/2008/09/28/frumster-files-60879/#comment-445 abandoning eden Sun, 28 Sep 2008 14:03:21 +0000 http://hadassahsabo.wordpress.com/?p=244#comment-445 I was never on frumster (well that's not true, but it was a very very long time ago), but I have been on dating websites. In general I would not suspend my membership until I had some sort of commitment from a person- like that we were no longer dating other people and had a conversation establishing that (I had that conversation with my fiance after about 2 and a half weeks of dating, when we had seen each other 5 or 6 times). If I had started dating someone, after at least two dates I probably wouldn't really sign into a dating website until I saw where the current situation was going, but after one date I don't think it's a problem- especailly cause so many internet first dates never get to a second date. I wouldn't suspend my membership BEFORE a first date happened...I think that's definitely jumping the gun, and will probably come off as a bit desperate. I've definitely talked to more than one person at a time, since internet dating is definitely a numbers game- I was very picky about meeting up with people, so I would meet maybe one out of 10 people who contacted me. I never was really talking to more than 2 or 3 at a given time, so it wasn't hard to keep track (and the ones I was actually interested in was easy to keep track of). Out of those 1/10 people I would meet with, I maybe went on a second date with 1/5th, and I think that's pretty standard. I was never on frumster (well that’s not true, but it was a very very long time ago), but I have been on dating websites. In general I would not suspend my membership until I had some sort of commitment from a person- like that we were no longer dating other people and had a conversation establishing that (I had that conversation with my fiance after about 2 and a half weeks of dating, when we had seen each other 5 or 6 times). If I had started dating someone, after at least two dates I probably wouldn’t really sign into a dating website until I saw where the current situation was going, but after one date I don’t think it’s a problem- especailly cause so many internet first dates never get to a second date. I wouldn’t suspend my membership BEFORE a first date happened…I think that’s definitely jumping the gun, and will probably come off as a bit desperate.

I’ve definitely talked to more than one person at a time, since internet dating is definitely a numbers game- I was very picky about meeting up with people, so I would meet maybe one out of 10 people who contacted me. I never was really talking to more than 2 or 3 at a given time, so it wasn’t hard to keep track (and the ones I was actually interested in was easy to keep track of). Out of those 1/10 people I would meet with, I maybe went on a second date with 1/5th, and I think that’s pretty standard.

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