He and I, are engaged to be married.

Trust me on this;
it does.

I don’t mean to boast, the point of sharing my story is to to show that it does happen.

I met my wife almost 11 years ago. We were both babies, 19 and 17 years old, at the time. As much as I poke fun at the “religious” way of getting married when barely out of puberty, there was a material benefit for us: we grew into adulthood together. We developed and changed and worked through a lot of issues together. Nothing gives me greater confidence in our future than the measure of adversity we have already overcome together to make our relationship work.

And as cliche as at may seem, I cannot imagine my life without her. Literally! I do not know an adult life absent my wife.

And so 10 years down the line, now 3 and some years married (there was a long and arduous path to even living on the same continent, but that’s a separate story), we are still hopelessly enamored of each other. The amount of time we were forced to spend apart by life and happenstance has pretty much cured us of wanting to be apart.

So you might see it as codependency borne of long habit, or a comfortable role we fell into at a young age, but to us, it is true love, a devotion to overcome whatever stands between and ahead of us. It is as palpably real as the keyboard underneath my fingers. It exists to us, and although I can’t say that I believe in god, I’m thankful for every day of it, even the really bad ones.

I just don’t like the depreciative tone she uses, and from this tone I conclude that she is arrogant.

But I suppose I am mistaken in my last hypothesis: some men like arrogance in women… So perhaps you would be a good candidate, if you are available?

You then give two examples, one from your personal experience and another from second-hand sources. Most people would consider the latter hearsay and not use it to defend an argument, much less try and prove a point with it.

You might want to get a better dictionary or thesaurus. Insinuation has a specific meaning and I do not think Hadassah was insinuating anything – suggesting definitely, but the connotation of low-handedness and deviousness that goes with insinuation is auspiciously missing. Like I said a better dictionary might serve you well.

Secondly?!? Where was the Firstly ?!? Your ability to form cogent arguments is being tested here. You have no Primus so no Secondus can exist. You might have been better served by saying “Additionally” or “Another issue I have”, as it seems you have many.

You find the posts amusing, but you question the message. Well I admire your courage and stick-to-it-tiveness to write a comment to something that you feel strongly about. I applaud you, but as I read this blog also I prefer to see arguments that are at least well-formed and reasoned.

I too am amused by some of the post and others have little or no attraction for me. Some I comment on and some I don’t. I reckon it is the same for you, but you need to realize that you are not obliged to read them and if the tone of prose offends you, you have the option of going elsewhere. Of course should you find value in what you read then – read on! But to use inflammatory language to try and make a point and correct me if I’m worng, he point was to essential tell Hadassah her standards are too high, she’s to hard, she wants and expects too much, she….well if that was you intention – I can lay the restless spirits in your mind to rest – she is a very confident lady with definite goals, dreams and aspirations. She is slowly realizing them. She should be applauded. hers has not been an easy row to till, but yet she manages. Can you say they same?

I know a woman who is with a man who is about 15 years younger than her and they have been a perfectly happy for the past 20 years.

I also heard about a woman who married the son of her friend, and it also works (except that the mother is angry that the son married and “old wife”.

So I think that there is no “natural law” that it should not work, as you are insinuating.

Secondly, you complained in a previous post how badly educated and whatever those men are and that you cannot find anyone who suits you. While I find the posts quite amusing, I still think that it betrays an arrogance that I do not like. Who knows? Perhaps men don’t like it either.