Wednesday’s Wacky Signs

All day today I was convinced it was Thursday. How wrong I was. Anyhow, sorry for the delay.

New Rule – household help must be uglier than you.

A friend forwarded this link to me, and asked me for my thoughts. I had heard vague talk about it, but had no time to pay it any attention. Click to watch the video.

This is a video made for Aish by Lori Palatnik. In it she asks us women to do the sensible thing and make sure that the help we employ at home is not as cute as we are, not as skinny or skinnier than us, or as young. She warns us to not be stupid and to safeguard our marriages.

On the one hand I see the point she is making. Why deliberately put temptation in our husband’s way? That must be asking for trouble.

But on the other hand – are our husbands not grown men capable of knowing that it’s wrong to cheat, and that even if he sees a pretty young thing in his house, she is off limits?? Does he walk around with blinkers on, so that he never has to see someone who might look younger or cuter than his wife? Do we now tell all the bosses in this world that they are only allowed to employ ugly women lest a man might be led astray? Do we forbid our teenage daughters from bringing their friends home?

Why is she putting the responsibility on the women? Would it be our fault, then, if a husband cheated with the help? Or only if we hired someone pretty?

Most homes I have been in, when the help is there, the husband is usually at work. And even if he isn’t, he’s busy doing something other than ogling the help.

Has it happened that a religious man has cheated with the help? Absolutely! Has he cheated with his next door neighbour, his best friend’s wife? Indeed.

If a man is going to cheat, he will find someone to cheat with. No matter how hard the wife tries to keep all the women around him ugly (like it’s even possible) if he wants to stray, there will be no stopping him.

Lori Palatnik is a very learned woman, and I usually enjoy and agree with much of what she says. There is something to be learned from this video – yes a marriage is something to be cherished and taken care of. But it takes work from both. If a man cheats it is HIS fault not his wife’s.

Thoughts?

MRI Update

Firstly – thanks to all of you that commented, emailed and facebooked/ tweeted me with your advice and MRI experiences – it helped a lot.

I arrived at the Imaging Center at 6.20 this morning and had to wait for someone to open the doors at 6.30. By 6.35 I had signed all the necessary papers, given over the insurance information, corrected their spelling on my street name and was taken through to the back.

Waited perhaps 3 minutes, and then was shown to a room to change into a gown. She told me I could leave on my hair covering, so long as there were no metal pins or clips in it.

The technician explained the whole procedure to me, gave me earplugs, and helped me to lay down on the table. Flat on my back is not the position that affords me the most comfort right now. In fact I was in total agony through out the whole 20 minute MRI. Which made it difficult to hold still. Especially when pain was shooting down my leg…

But I used the noise of the machine to conjure up imagery of shooting the pain – blasting it and drilling it and blowing it up. I was so focused on being in pain and killing the pain that I forgot to feel claustrophobic.

It was over in 20 minutes. No big deal, I guess. Except now I am in more pain than I was before. I just took some painkillers now, and am resting up. I have to wait till Friday (until the results get to his office) to call to schedule a follow up appointment with the OrthoDoc. Hopefully he can see me first thing Monday morning and we will have some kind of plan of action for dealing with my back.

Stay tuned.

Email etiquette

I complained last week to the KoD about an email I had received. It was from a professional colleague. We had had some back and forth about something, and I received a response, by email, of “K”.

I mentioned to the KoD that I thought that was a way too casual response from someone in a professional environment. He didn’t think it was egregious at all. I start most of my professional emails with Dear so and so, and always sign my name, even if I do attach my signature at the end of it.

Then, my dear friend, Mrs Flying Dutchman, sent this article my way this morning. How to write an effective email.

So, I open the question up to you folks. What is your email style, does it change depending on whether it’s a social or professional context, and do you have an opinion on email etiquette?