With Yom Kippur fast approaching I wanted to share my new year’s resolutions with you. I don’t usually make resolutions, because I resolved not to keep them as it’s generally too hard and I have been a completely lazy bunny in the past. However this year I feel inspired from within.
I have resolved to not curse or swear, even inside my head or under my breath. I am finding it not as difficult as I thought it would be, but it makes me hyper sensitive to those around me who don’t have their colourful cursing quashed. Nothing like a reformed curser…
I also want to try my hardest to leave Lashon Hara and Rechilut behind in the dust. There should be no room for it in my life, but sometimes the temptation to gossip proves just so delicious. I need to withstand that temptation. If anyone has any tips on how to bite their tongue in this regard, I would very much appreciate it.
I had a very thought provoking conversation with a friend today, about the Ashamnu’s. How many of us have ever taken the time to look through them, and decide that next year we want to be able to say I don’t have to beat my chest for that one – I worked on it, and I vanquished that aveirah. Wouldn’t that just be an awesome feeling?
For me, for some reason, I feel the need to work on the aveirot that we do with the mouth, tongue, speech etc. I guess included in this is not yelling at the kids, something I rarely do, but hey, I am a person not a robot and am so not perfect. But there is a line I use on my perfect kids when they show some speech related imperfections, and I guess it was time to stop and think about the words that I actually used. “you kiss your mother with that mouth” and “you daven to Hashem with that same mouth”. We can use our mouth for so much good – prayer, kissing booboos better, encouraging people, advising, supporting, consoling etc. Isn’t it better to do good with ones mouth than yell, badmouth, denigrate and the like?
I am so not a holy roller, folks, I just want to improve myself. Who is up to the challenge?