Daily Archives: July 14, 2009

Security objects

We all have had or have known kids that dragged around a blanket 24/7 (or a bear or mommy’s shirt) that kept the child company whatever s/he did. I remember having two for one of my kids so I could surreptitiously wash it whenever he wasn’t looking. They can get attached to the smell too. Any parent can tell you that it makes the child feel secure. No matter what they are doing blankie is with them, for them to touch and feel safe.

I have heard of teens sleeping with their blankie / object under their pillow, but generally no one walks to the Chuppah with one.

As an adult, we still need certain objects around us that calm us down and help us feel relaxed. What are your favourite objects?

Ok I will go first – mine – my kids – I know they are not objects, but just hugging them centres me, I was gonna also say the KoD but I knew you would all hurl (but sometimes I just need to call / text / email him and I feel calmer. Even just connecting with him indirectly always helps me). I like looking at my photo albums – reminds me of the amazing happy times we have had.

Ethical question

This question always comes up when you are planning a simcha on Shabbat. Can you invite a guest to join in your simcha when you KNOW s/he will be mechallel Shabbat (break the laws of Shabbat) to get there? I am sure there are fixes – offer them a place to stay near location of event, even if they refuse, you are yoitzer – is this true?

How have YOU addressed this issue in the past?

Disclaimer – for any halachic questions please contact your local rabbi – I am not a halachic authority…