Daily Archives: October 29, 2009

Immigration Update

As you know we have been waiting for visas to be issued in order for us to move to New York to live with the KoD. Legal permission to move the kids has been obtained, the only obstacle has been waiting for these visas.

The KoD and I have been married now for over 8 months, and we sent off our papers as soon as we could after the wedding. It’s been months of form filling and more form filling. We did our medicals, and applied for police certificates and did everything that has been asked of us.

All we have been waiting for is an interview date. We have been told that we will be granted the visas at the interview, or within a day or two thereof. Every day I go to the mailbox hoping for a letter with the interview date. Every day I get disappointed. Every day I try to hold it together, as being apart from the love of my life is really tough.

The KoD is as impatient as I am, and getting answers from the consulate when you are a private citizen is next to impossible, even though you have paid mucho dinero to apply for your visas. So KoD decided to contact his local congressman and see if he could do something to help us. Couldn’t hurt, right?

A member of the congressman’s staff made some phone calls and wrote some emails. He really worked hard to get us an answer. He wrote the KoD today, enclosing an email from a senior consular official.

It’s not awesome news, but at least we know where we stand. There are hundreds of people ahead of us in line, and he reckons that we won’t have an appointment for another two to three months. That brings us into January / February of 2010. Basically to a year after our wedding. Ouch. But the truth is without the congressman’s staffer’s intervention we would have no way of knowing when. While I am sad (ok crying big hujungous buckets of tears) that I have to wait another couple of months, having a time frame helps. It also helps to have had confirmation from this consular official that we have qualified for an interview, that there are no papers or forms missing, and that we are in the queue.

Mixed blessing I guess…..now to tell the kids….oy….

Thank you to my darling KoD for doing all you can to get us down there with you. We love you and miss you.

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Simple winter soup


8 cups chicken broth (or if you have leftovers of my chicken soup you can use that)

2 cups pureed pumpkin (have to cook it first. See below)

2 large onions, chopped

3 large carrots

1 tbs chopped fresh sage

3 cloves of garlic

1 tsp salt

1 tsp pepper


Add all ingredients to an enamel pot. Simmer for 30 minutes stirring occasionally. Slow simmer for an hour until soup has thickened.

You can also add 2 or 3 peeled, cored and chopped apples for an interesting variation.

For a great presentation idea, use a hollowed out pumpkin as the soup tureen, or individual small pumpkin bowls.

How to cook a pumpkin:

Slice pumpkin down the middle and scoop out the seeds. Place pumpkin halves face down on a baking dish. Add ½ inch of water to the pan. Bake at 450 until you can pierce the skin with a fork. Remove from over, peel away the skin. Put flesh into the food processor, whizz it up a bit, there you have pureed pumpkin. Yum.

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DovBear is an awesome blogger, and we have the most tremendous conversations on Twitter as well as on his blog. He has recently celebrated 5 years of excellent blogging, and to celebrate he is holding a live interview, moderated by Rabbi E Fink and Tikkun Olam, both of whom have also commented on my blog. So click on to this link and see you there today at 3.30 EST!

Happy Blogaversary Mr Bear!!

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What else don’t I know?

My 14 year old son usually comes home from yeshiva for breakfast and lunch. We are 5 minutes walk from the school, so he has the time. I like it because I get to see him and make sure he eats properly, and I get him to do a chore or two meanwhile. This morning he emptied all the apartment’s trash cans and took it to the garbage room. Without complaints.

He usually strolls in around 9 am, this morning he was home at 8.30.

“Hey sweetie, what you doing home so early?”

“Um, yeah, its Behab”

“Behab?” no clue what he was talking about

“Behab, after the chagim, Behab, you know”

Turns out he didn’t exactly understand what it was either. So I turned to my references – Twitter Jew Crew. I tweeted “what the heck is Behab??”

Within 60 seconds I had some answers.

@yeshivaguy beis, hai, beis. Us menfolk do slichos in during the monday, thursday, monday following pesach/succos. Behab 4 short.

@judahe first Monday Thursday Monday (B”HB) after festivals.Some fast to atone for overindulgence of one form or another during chag

I was also directed to this blog which actually explains it better than I ever could.

I have been Jewish all my life, Orthodox all of it too. How is it that I keep hearing of things that I never heard of before? Is it because I had a Jewish girl’s education? And that I am raising boys now, so there are a lot of things that didn’t pertain to me, but that they are aware of? Sometimes I just feel as if I am so ignorant.

But it still doesn’t explain why my son was home early…why shachris was shorter. They did say tachanun….

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Sweetness and Light

sunkist_fruit_gems_candyThis is just way weird. I do not believe in coincidence, but…. Both times that I have recently been to the not-specifically-kosher-but-has-lots-of-kosher-stuff grocery store I have been stopped in the snack aisle. Both times by older women. Both wanted to ask me which candies were the best to throw at a bar/bat mitzvah grandchild. Both had Sunkist candies in their hands which are exorbitantly expensive. Today’s lady mentioned she asked me because I look about the same age as her daughter. The lady from last time said she was asking me because I look religious, so I would know these things. What are the chances?

Of course, me being me, we had a whole long chat and ended up with me wishing them mazel tov and a lot of nachas from the grandchildren. I didn’t get into the whole argument over whether we should be throwing candies or not.

I am almost afraid to go there again, they may hang out a shingle, “candy expert in the house”…

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