Daily Archives: November 8, 2009

Google Voice

I received an invite for Google Voice, which I will hopefully set up soon, next time I am in the states. What exactly will it do for me? I was all excited about google wave and I just don’t see the point of that, will this be the same? I don’t talk tech speak, I need simple sentences….

Secondly, there has been much talk about choosing a cool number. Let’s have some suggestions for a cool number for me.

Thank you!

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Response to a comment re: Jewish husbands

Last week we discussed a reader’s failing marriage and had some reader input into how they dealt with their own marriages and subsequent divorces. One of our readers, Rebecca, left this comment… I want to attempt to answer it here to the best of my ability.

“Are many Orthodox husbands, standoffish, with their wives and children? I am surprised to read from the women how unhappy they are. R some of these marriages arranged, or have the couples had very little time to get to know one other. My understanding of relationships is that the couple do not spend time together alone. Is that an accurate statement.”

Orthodox men are no more “standoffish” with their wives and kids than any other group of men. In fact, some of the women who commented on that post were NOT necessarily married to orthodox men and NOT necessarily Jewish or religious themselves. I have no clue about the divorce statistics of Orthodox couples vs non-ortho or even non-Jewish, but I would imagine that similar marital problems can exist across the whole spectrum.

“Arranged” marriages are not a thing of the past, however they are more prevalent in the Chassidic community, and this is a community I do not know much about. Most Orthodox couples, even if brought together by a shadchan, a matchmaker, have the chance to get to know each other before deciding to get married. No one is forced into it.

As to “the couple do not spend time together alone” – totally false. Judaism is very encouraging of alone time within a marriage. Yes, there are times during the woman’s cycle that they cannot be physically intimate with each other, but that doesn’t mean that they cannot have quality time together. Quite the opposite. The physical break reinforces the emotional bond that they have with each other.

Most of the Orthodox homes I have been in there is a strong connection between both parents and the children, and between husband and wife. The marital bond may not be shown by physical demonstration – that kind of stuff is private, not for the public to see. You may not see Orthodox couples embracing or touching – but that does not mean there is no love there, or no bond. It does not show standoffishness. Quite the opposite. The touch between a married couple is precious and sacred, and there is no need to cheapen it by demonstrating it for all to see.

Rebecca, I know you are seeking to expand your knowledge, I hope I helped in some way. If you have more questions please do not hesitate to ask.

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What’s your favourite movie?

movieSo the KoD and I went to the movies last night. We saw “Law Abiding Citizen” which was awesome, yet very scary. My 14 year old son has asked to see it. I doubt I will EVER let him see it. Too gruesome.

So of course this leads to a discussion on favourite movies etc. KoD is very much a typical male in that he only likes to watch a movie once, and that’s it. Us women, well, we can watch a favourite film over and over and over again, and still not be done with it. I cannot tell you how many times I have watched Love Story and I still cry, even tho, KoD, I know what’s going to happen. Maybe it’s a man / woman thing?

So I say to the KoD, but what about our wedding video, you still haven’t seen it. His response, bless him? “But I was there, what do I need to see the video for?!” Le sigh….

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