Daily Archives: November 18, 2009

Blogging is not tznius

This was a status update by incredible blogger Aliza Hausman. Unfortunately this was not the first I had heard of this idea this week. I have had a couple of interactions recently with Jewish female bloggers on this subject. Some rabbanim have felt that it draws too much attention and is not to be encouraged. Especially in single female bloggers who are dating. Being a public figure is apparently against the tenets of Judaism and modesty unless you are a Rabbi.

How stupid of me to forget! Us women are supposed to be quiet and hide behind our men, and only speak when spoken to. And if we don’t have men to hide behind? Use a tree, something, so that women should never be seen, let alone be heard to have opinions.

Yes there are JBlogs out there that talk about taboo subjects and are sensationalist etc. But there are some awesome quality JBlogs writen by some phenomenal female members of the Tribe. The world is so much better for these blogs. I have learned a tremendous amount from these women, and come to a much deeper understanding of myself through the blogging medium. If I have learned from them, I am sure many others have too.

I am a Jewish female blogger and I stand tall and proud. Who is with me???!!!

Soon breathing won’t be tznius….what will they think of next??!!

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Ask Away

My friend and fellow blogger Elianah-Sharon had this feature on her blog, and I am stealing the idea. (Hope you don’t mind, sweetie).

What do you want to ask me? What do you want to know about me? Is there something you want to say to me?

Ask away….

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Is the zing necessary?

I was recently discussing dating with a friend who is “in the parshah”, as they say. She had been seeing this bloke for a few months, and while theoretically he was an ideal match, she said she didn’t feel anything. She enjoys her time with him, but feels like the magic is missing. They have fun, there is always plenty to talk about, they share common interests and goals.

She isn’t a young flibbertigibbet in her late teens or early twenties. She is an accomplished professional in her chosen field, and has her head screwed on very well. She knows who she is. She wanted to know my thoughts on whether she should settle for someone who matched her well, or hold out for the zing, for the magic, for the violins and fireworks.

I wasn’t sure what to answer. For me and the KoD there was magic from the moment we met. But I know that many people don’t have that initial coup de foudre. It takes time to build a bond, a connection. Sometimes the magic doesn’t happen for a while.

She is scared that if she rejects this guy, that there won’t be anyone comparable to marry. That she was lucky to have found someone compatible – and maybe in time the magic will happen.

What are your thoughts?

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Wednesday’s Wacky Signs

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