I picked up my boots from the cobbler at the local mall – they had needed to be reheeled. He put them in a plastic carrier bag for me. I thought nothing of it. I carried on my merry little way in the shopping centre, only to be stopped by a well meaning person wanting to tell me that I should turn my carrier bag inside out. Whyever should I do that, Mrs KnowItAll? Well, you wouldn’t want anyone thinking you actually shop at Marche Adonis, do you? (A non-kosher grocery store that probably stocks products that are kosher.)
Puhleeze, what next??!! They gonna tell me I cannot wear French Connection UK clothing???
Posted in rant
There is an unofficial unwritten rule in our yeshiva that you are supposed to tip the rebbes at Purim time. There has been no official guideline set out, and I never do it. Why? A) because I already pay tuition and B) they are getting paid a salary to teach my kid and C) because I do not have that kind of money to tip four rabbeim!! (I have heard of them getting in the hundreds from one parent.)
Last night a bunch of us were having a conversation on this subject, after a couple of people had received letters from their children’s yeshivot outlining the Chanukah tip suggestions. Rebbeim are supposed to get more than Morahs (male teachers vs female – don’t get me started) and some of the suggested tips went up to $360!!!
In this economy who has extra money? Private school tuition takes a huge chunk out of one’s salary, plus all the other extras you have to pay for – dinner, book fees, building fund, photocopying fee, get-you-every-which-way-we-can fee etc. How dare they send a letter saying you should tip the teachers??!!
I tip the superintendent in my building at Xmas time. He does a lot extra for me and I slip him a bill. He doesn’t expect it nor ask for it and it is MY choice whether to tip him or not. He will not treat me any differently whether I do or don’t.
The teachers – if you do not tip them, will they mark your child down? If you do tip, does s/he get higher grades? Does tipping only apply if they are doing a good job? We are all hurting financially in this economy – and I get that teachers are not paid that well in yeshivas – but who has extra money for this? Do the teachers count on this? Do they report the tips to the IRS? If one parent of every kid in a class of 24 gave a hundred dollars, that’s $2400 – a huge amount. Do the teachers count on this for parnassah?
Its bad enough the government always has their hands in our wallets, now the schools too?
For a more in your face take on this subject go visit DovBear and read what he has to say.