With long days at school, four kids and one of me there is not much opportunity for each child to get alone time with me. The youngest gets the most, as he has the least school. The oldest gets some too as he goes to bed later and also comes home for lunch. But generally, in the whole hustle and bustle of life – these moments mostly get lost in mundanities.
Last night I had the chance to spend an hour with Prince HockeyFan, alone. I took him to the local pizza shop and really enjoyed just connecting with him without the distraction of brothers and phones and chores etc. They are different children one on one. There is no one for them to fight with, to compete with, they can just be themselves. I believe he enjoyed himself too. He got to finish his sentences, he had my undivided attention – and we were at the pizza shop! (We both had poutine, but don’t tell the KoD, it is SO nutritionally unsound). I let him lead the conversation – he explained (or tried to explain) the rules of baseball to me, as he had just finished playing a game with his class. Something about bases being loaded or something.
I wish I could do this more often with each of them, but practically it isn’t possible.
How do YOU make sure to spend equal time with all of your kids? Do they appreciate it?