From the mailbag:
Dear In the Pink Lady,
I am the biggest kvetch on simchas torah. I do not enjoy watching the men dance and the ladies shmooze about the latest styles or shaitels. I feel simchas torah is a man’s holiday..seems they have all the fun and we get to just stand and watch..I go through this every year! do you enjoy this holiday, how can I change my attitude towards this yom tov?
A loyal reader
I do enjoy watching my boys dance, and this year will especially enjoy watching the KoD dance with them, but it is indeed very hard to sit there and watch seven Hakafot without participating at all. I will probably watch one or two, then go home and curl up with a good book. Some shuls I have been at do have Hakafot (dances) for the women, and some have included dancing with the sefer torah, but that’s not what’s done in my neck of the woods.
Readers – do any of you have any advice or words of wisdom?