Daily Archives: October 28, 2010

Schools here are political?

Please do not send my son home with bumper stickers supporting certain candidates in the upcoming elections. He is 8, he knows nothing of politics. Do not foist your nepotistic political views on him – he couldn’t care less that your nephew / aunt / cousin / dog is running for congress, or on which platform, for whatever party… He’s just excited he got a free bumper sticker.

Keep your politics to yourself and let my son learn what he is supposed to. How about sending home a bumper sticker that says – “Vote for Ima – she needs a vacation??”

It’s a Sad Day

Today I had to inform my boys that their paternal grandmother (my ex-husband’s mother) had passed away, in Montreal. It broke my heart to see my boys suffering. There is no way to ease the pain of news like that, especially if it is unexpected.

I brought them home from school one by one, so that we could have some time, one on one, to work through the news, and for hugs and kisses to be readily available as the news was sinking in, so that they didn’t have to share me while dealing with this awful news.

As a mother, you want to keep all the pain away from your children, you want to suffer through the pain for them if you can, but in this situation there wasn’t anything I could do, other than just offer them my time and my love and my arms. It felt as if I was inflicting pain on them by telling them this news, but what choice did I have?

The boys are handling the news as well as could be expected. They have all spoken to their Abba and are slowly starting to share memories of their Bubby.

As for me, well, there are a lot of different thoughts and emotions percolating through my head. My former mother-in-law was a special lady, one who loved me from the moment she met me. She adored her grandchildren to distraction, and always made sure I knew how much she appreciated the way I was raising them, even post-divorce.

I am sad for my kids, and I am even sadder for their father. Losing a parent is such a tough thing to go through.

May her memory be a blessing.

Coffee woes

I am currently trying to decide whether to give up coffee or not. My stomach cannot really tolerate it – even the low acid stuff. I am weighing up the pros and cons – is the stomach ache worth it? Does coffee really make me human in the morning, or can that be achieved by other means? Would tea achieve the same effect, but be easier on the tummy?

Yes, this is huge. I love coffee with a passion that borders on the obsessed. We know this. But my poor little tummy is not a happy camper these days. I have cut down my coffee consumption to one cup in the morning. Occasionally I will have a second cup ….. but not often.

Being me, I would quit cold turkey which would be hell for those around me. I know I should taper off….

Ugh. I cannot believe I am actually seriously considering this. It feels like sacrilege. I did it 18 months ago or so….but it didn’t last.