Daily Archives: November 16, 2010

Engagement Rings

I just read that Prince William gave his fiancée Katherine Middleton his mother’s engagement ring. I was touched at first, thinking it was a very sweet thought, and a homage to his mother who is obviously missed at this time.

Some others might disagree, after all Prince Charles and Princess Diana did get divorced – so maybe the ring shouldn’t have been passed on to Katherine. Bad karma and what have you.

I say it’s a sweet thought, and when Prince Charles gave it to Diana they were happy, and it was a token of their commitment to the rest of their lives together. Yes, we all know what happened, and some say he was never committed, but at the time that gorgeous ring was given it meant a lot to the recipient.

What do you think? Sweet or misguided?

What’s in a name?

Dear Parents – When your child is born, please give them a normal name. And after you have decided by which of their five names they will be called, please make sure ALL these names are included on the birth certificate – Hebrew, English, French, Spanish and Yiddish. (Exaggerate much??!) This will ensure, dear parents, that when your daughter is all grown up and wishes to use her Hebrew name (by which everyone knows her) on her documents, her original birth certificate will reflect this name and not cause her trouble and strife at the DMV.

Yes folks, I had fun today at the DMV. Not. Now that I am blessed with a social security number (yay, I can work) I can go get a NYS driver’s license. However, you actually have to bring the card with you, even though they tell you never to carry your SSN with you. Ever. Anyhoo, my birth certificate only has my English name on it. (OK if you are being pedantic it has my Welsh name on it as it is a Welsh birth certificate, but I digress). Sorry Mum, but I hate my English name. No one has ever ever ever called me by that name. All my life I have been called Hadassah. (OK, once a teacher mispronounced it as Haddock but that’s another story).

When I got married the first time, my marriage certificate, in which it referred to me as a SPINSTER (no joke – sad, a spinster at 21) it used my English name but also added “also known as Hadassah EnglishName Sabo” – we had them fill out the certificate like that so that I could open a bank account in Montreal using Hadassah as my given name.

Fine. I changed my passport once I had kids, to Hadassah EnglishName Sabo-ExLastName so that travelling with them would be easier.  I haven’t updated it since, so my Green Card is in that name.  Argh!! Following me so far? Since I married my KoD I wanted to take on his name. But I think I am gong to have to do it with a legal name change – it’s complicated. I have so many names I don’t even know where to start.

So I had to show the DMV the trail of how EnglishName Sabo at birth becomes Hadassah Milner at 37. It’s enough to turn anyone’s hair grey. And then they sent me away because I didn’t have the actual social security card on me. Phooey. Now I get to go back again and waste time at the good old DMV.

Do any of you have name change stories?


We all love a deal, right? Money off our groceries and other items is always helpful. Since I moved to NY I have been learning that certain coupons can get doubled and we get coupons in the mail for all sorts of things. My fave are the Bed Bath and Beyond coupons because even if they are out of date, they still work!

Some restaurants also give coupons. I once knew someone who thought it was totally tacky to present a coupon at a restaurant to get money off. He said that if you cannot afford to pay for your meal in full, you shouldn’t go to a restaurant. I can see how he may have been right, especially on a date – you don’t want to appear cheap, but on the whole – is it tacky? Is it financially smart?

Do you have a line that you won’t cross when it comes to clipping coupons or are you up for saving pennies everywhere? Do the weekly coupons influence your menus? What was the best deal you ever got with coupons?

HSM’s Crock Pot Rice and Beans


Crock Pot Rice and Beans - the finished product!


I just threw this together in the crock pot and am hoping that it turns out well. It should. I may need to add more water as it cooks, and will update the recipe if that is the case.


1 tsp cornstarch
½ stick margarine
1 15 oz can red beans (rinse all the beans really well)
1 15 oz can black beans
1 15 oz can white beans
1 large chopped onion
1 diced green pepper
1 stalk celery finely chopped
2 Spicy sausages – I used Kielbasa –sliced (you can use veggie links too)
1 ½ tsps of Dry Adobo*
2 bay leaves
1 tsp Tabasco or Hot Sauce
3 cups of rice

What to do:

Pour 6 cups of water into the pot.
Add the cornstarch and stir.
Add the rest of the ingredients, and cook for 8 hours on low.
If you would rather, add the rice about 90 minutes before you are planning to serve the meal.

Thanks to Ruby V for pointing me here for the *Dry Adobo:
6 tablespoons salt
3 tablespoons onion powder
3 tablespoons garlic powder
3 tablespoons ground black pepper
1 ½ teaspoons ground oregano
Place all ingredients in a jar with a tight fitting lid. Shake well and store for up to 2 months in a cool dry place.

Mazel Tov Prince William and Kate

By now you all know that Britain’s heir to the throne, Prince William has become affianced to Kate Middleton, his girlfriend since 2003. In the UK right now preparations are running full steam ahead for another royal wedding, the likes of which haven’t been seen since Lady Di married Prince Charles when I was knee high to a grasshopper.

I remember that wedding – we had the day off from school. I was living in Cardiff, Wales at the time. We all (even my brothers) sat near the TV, with plates of food to keep us going. I was spellbound. The late Princess Diana looked like a dream and was so beautiful. I was so young yet I felt the awe and the emotion of the event.

I, along with most of my UK counterparts, was devastated upon Princess Diana’s death, and the TV footage of those poor little princes walking behind her coffin reduced me to floods of tears.

Now Prince William has chosen his bride, and the whole country will catch wedding fever like they did back then in 1981. I am not sorry to be away from the country right now, but will be watching the ceremony if it isn’t on a Shabbat.

I would just hate to be them, preparing for their big day in a constant spotlight. But if they would ask me for my advice I would tell them that getting married is a big deal, but the focus needs to be on the marriage and not the wedding. I just hope they have their priorities straight and don’t allow themselves to get caught up in the pomp and pageantry. That lasts for one day, one hopes that marriage lasts forever.