Daily Archives: February 8, 2011

Poppet

For the KoD – Poppet is indeed a term of endearment as I told you. When I call the little one Poppet I am not calling him a PUPPET. From the Cambridge online dictionary.

Poppet – noun

Definition: a person, especially a child, that you like or love

[as form of address] Come on, poppet, it’s time for bed.
Oh, Becky’s a real poppet – such a sweet girl.
(Definition of poppet noun from the Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary)

Worn Out

Ugh. I am so tired. You know that tired when just moving an inch just seems way too much of an investment and you just want to vegetate wherever you are?

The last two nights my sleep has been all messed up. Sunday night because I had to drive six hours to get the boys after their weekend with their father, and we didn’t get in and settled until way past midnight and I was up at 6am. Last night I went to bed way too late – I had already passed the point where I was tired. My mind was in overdrive following a conversation with some friends – I tossed and turned. I did not wake up rested.

I hit the ground running this morning, was at the computer working by 630. I got the kids off to school, and went back to work. Got supper in the crockpot, went back to work. At around 1 pm I was like a limp dish rag. I crawled into bed for a nap (oh the benefits of working from home) and even though I slept two hours, I still feel like my reserves are totally depleted. Coffee did nothing for me. I am now in my warm jammies and counting down the hours until bedtime.

No more work for me today, supper is done (other than boiling up the rice), the kids will be home soon and we will have a cuddlefest.

….and I am in dire need of cupcakes. With lots of frosting. Preferably of the chocolate variety.

Sacrifices

So there are hundreds of panels going on in NYC (and around the world) this week for Social Media Week. And I am at none of them. I could have justified the cost of attending – the networking alone would be awesome and this is my field. There was a Jewish Social Media Event (Relative Virality) last night at the Sesame Street Workshop that I would love to have been at.

However, being a mom has to come first. Sometimes I do wish I could just take off and do whatever I want to do and leave the kids with sitters or the KoD just so that I can further my career and / or socialize. And, yes, occasionally, there is an event that I consider important enough for me to leave the nest for a bit. Going into NYC adds 2 hours of travel time at least so it really has to be worth it.

The hard part is deciding what is worth the sacrifice and what isn’t. It is a judgment call every single time. I don’t want my career to suffer because I put family first, but I don’t want my family to suffer if occasionally I put my career first.

Balancing it all out is so hard. I want to know – career parents out there – how do you decide what events to attend, business trips to take, lunch / dinner meetings to schedule? Do you limit yourself to a certain number of evenings a month? Does it depend on your spouse / parents’ ability to watch the kids? Do you discuss with your spouse first?