I just vented the following story to my eldest son and he says it makes absolute sense. He also says it’s male logic and I just have to accept it.
Yesterday I sent a picture to the KoD of some bed linens I had found in the linen closet. (You will remember we have discussed buying new linens and cannot agree on a pattern). I had bought them about 3 years ago, and used them for a while until I found something more girlie. But all I said with the picture was – do you like this bedding? His response – “a most emphatic NO”. Then I told him that I found it in my linen closet. His response – “if free, then I like it”.
What on earth do you mean by that? If you don’t like it then you don’t like it! No? His explanation was that if I was going to spend money on it, then no absolutely not, there is no way on God’s green earth that he would want me to buy that bedding. But if we already have it, then why not. Sure I can bring it down with me and we can use it.
Does this make sense to you? Is this really a crazy male logic thing? When I like something then I like it. If I hate it, free or not, it won’t change my mind!!
Shower curtains that is! As I mentioned yesterday we are sprucing up the house and taking care of stuff for the big testosterone influx (my boys) with the addition of a little of my own estrogen. (At least when the KoD’s kids come over there will be more pinkitude in the house…then we will be 6 males and 3 females…)
I really didn’t like the shower curtain in our master bathroom – it was old and ugly and just plain yuck. So we agreed to get a new one. On the left is the one I really wanted. Somehow, the KoD didn’t agree that it was appropriate for our bathroom. It comes with a whole matching set of accessories that are absolutely gorgeous. But I guess seeing as we share this bathroom, it is a little too girlie to foist on him. Just a little. We ended up getting a really lovely white hotel quality curtain that looks very decent and elegant. But it took us a long time to agree. I tend to go more towards the chintz and the pink and the flowers and the lacy things (go figure) and he leans towards the simple yet elegant. At least we finally agreed on the shower curtain.
I had wanted to pick us up some new bedding as well. I think we shall have to shelve that idea for now. Everything he liked I hated as I saw those patterns as too masculine and too plain. And the patterns that I liked, well, they were way too ……. different to what he wanted. What is wrong with maroon and gold, I ask you? And dust ruffles are totally necessary to keep the dust at bay, they are not just there for looks, right? After a while of looking and comparing I decided it just wouldn’t be right to be one of those couples that had a loud difference of opinion in Bed Bath and Beyond. It’s only bedding, right? Not worth the fight. What we have is functional, if not exactly what we both like. In time I am sure I will be able to find something that we can both be happy with (or I will wear him down, whichever comes first. Just kidding).
I guess that’s what happens when you have two opinionated people married to each other. We each have an opinion, we each respect the other person’s right to have an opinion but really wish that it gelled with our own!! Still, I am glad that so far it’s only bedding patterns that we disagree on.