Just had a girlfriend bending my ear about the ridiculousness of the shidduch business. She said all the shadchanim (matchmakers) really want to know is the size of the girl – slim, average or forget-about-it. Is she pretty? Does she dress well? They don’t even bother asking about her middot, her character or personality traits. Is that not important anymore?
Are there no larger girls needing to get married? Are they to be forgotten about because they cannot squeeze into less than a 14? There are not so many girls who stay size 2 after they have kids you know!! No one asks if the boy is fat, or skinny or has pimples.
Why so much emphasis on size??
These days it is so politically incorrect to call someone fat. But apparently totally ok to call someone thin, even someone you don’t even know that well. Maybe thin people feel discriminated against? Maybe inside every thin person is a fat person waiting to break out? How did it become ok to tell someone they look amazing because they lost weight? Doesn’t that imply that they looked like crap to start off with? No one would dare go up to someone and say “wow it looks like you have gained weight since the last time I saw you, tell me your secret” – so why is the opposite deemed to be ok? Why are thin people held up as the yardstick for what passes as beauty in this world? Why is it that people’s size actually matters? Isn’t it what’s inside a person that counts? These days you can buy a ladies dress in a size ZERO – what does that mean, that the person wearing it doesn’t really exist? Come on people!!!! Lets stop being so shallow and fickle and judgemental, and look at the real person, look in their heart and soul.